Dates Advantage

Is this guide, I will teach you how to tap into your inner masculine strength and become the man that you know you can be. You will learn, through introspection and self-awareness, how to approach women and seduce them through the power of simply being yourself.

In this first part, I will teach you how to be yourself and gain the affections of any woman that you choose. I will help you to toss away any misconceptions that you may have about the fairer sex, as well as well as any that you may have about yourself or your role as a man. I will bring you from realizing your full potential all of the way to recognizing the subtle signals that women send out when they want to be romanced and seduced.

Please take everything I lay out here to heart and realize that it all comes from a place of introspection and experience. If there is something that you don't understand, try re-reading it until you really get it. Enjoy.

To begin your journey toward finding the real you and increasing your success with the fairer sex, you must first ask yourself one very important question. It is possibly the most important question that you will ever ask yourself. That question is:

Do you love women?

In all of my years spent coaching men, this has been one of the most overlooked aspects in every single case. I have always felt that there was something missing when I tried to express and deliver my real message and principles to men.

Not only is the simple question the most important one to ask yourself, but it also the one that is almost never asked out in the dating world. It seems, on its own, to be so obvious that it gets taken for granted, but I can assure you that it is a lot more complex than most men realize. I will give you an example.

I was coaching a specific client not too long ago. For the sake of confidentiality, I will refer to him as Lester. Lester had been participating in Skype sessions with me for about three weeks, with one session per week. I invest heavily in my online coaching in terms of getting the best for the men who put their trust in me, so in every case he was going over the allotted one hour limit to one and a half or even two hours. This is with every guy regardless. So, that being said, I pride myself on getting guys phenomenal transformations in a very short period of time. So, with Lester, it was the first time I had hit a brick wall. By the third week, he had all my principles understood and implemented. He had processed everything, and he had become it, which is the norm. I was pleased, and so was he. After doing the exercises I assigned, he did not experience the results of my other clients and I was completely puzzled. He would speak of situations and interactions, and even though clinically he was applying the correct principles, there was no 'umph', so sexual attraction, and everything would fizzle out.

Then, during our fourth session it hit me, seemingly out of thin air, but I went ahead and asked the most simple, obvious, yet profound question that any man can ask himself: "Lester, do you love women?"

There was silence and hesitation. Then, he responded with "Ya, sure, why else would I be doing all this?" When a man who truly loves women is asked that question, there is no hesitation; there is only passion and instant gushing of that passion. You see, Darren, like everyone else in the dating community, takes it as a certainty. But, do the majority of these guys behave in a way that states 'I love women'? Simply put, no. No they do not behave in that way.

Like I make no qualms in tell everyone, I fall in love about twenty different times a day. I don't mean I find twenty different women attractive, I mean I feel a deep, passionate, and overwhelming love all of the way to my very core. I feel flutters in the pit of my stomach. My heart skips a beat, and then speeds up. My brain short circuits and I lose my words for the briefest of seconds. The feelings that I feel when I fall in love are physical, energetic and spiritual. It is instinctual and natural.

I am now and always have been madly in love with women. I adore everything from the way they walk to the feel of their soft skin to how they slot their fingers between mine to hold my hand. I love her thick, beautiful hair and the way she smells when I kiss her on the cheek. I love her cheek, the little arch in her lower back when I'm kissing her soft spot on the inside of her thigh, how she looks to the side shyly when I look at her wanting to devour, the playfulness when she gets excited and the vibrancy behind her eyes. I love her beautiful exuberance.

Whether young, old, slim or heavy, I love women. They add passion to my life. They bring innocence to me. They remind me what it feels like to be a child again. I am endlessly curious and in a state of wonderment around them. If I were given a choice of sitting in a room with a group of guy friends, or a group of female friends, I'm sorry dudes, but the feminine wins every single time, regardless of looks.

I celebrate women on a daily basis, and I do it unapologetically. I love women, and women love me. If you give your love, they can only love you back. She is my drug, and I, my brothers, am an accepting, and self-proclaimed addict. I cannot beat this; I wouldn't want to beat this, because for me, without feminine energy to blossom within my life and my spirit, life is not worth living. Every woman is the most beautiful thing this world can offer me and through my deep understanding of what the feminine needs from my masculine, I can celebrate with her intimately

Do you love women? When you see that stunner walking down the street, do you fall in love? Do you feel like you have just been shot in the chest with a double barrel shot gun? Does life slow down in a split second and everything else cease to exist? If the answer is no, it's ok, because as a man, it is in there, you must just allow it to come to the surface and allow yourself to express it.

Now, let's get back to Lester. After discussing this with him it became clear, he was not allowing himself to celebrate women. Instead, he was implementing my principles, but coming from the wrong space. When he saw a woman he desired, he would ask himself, "Ok, what must I do in order for her to like me?" This is not showing love. The contrast to that is how I feel when I see a woman I desire, "I want to share her beauty with her." I see her as being a hundred times more beautiful than she sees herself, and I share this with her.

In short, Lester is going over to take while I am going over to give. Lester is going over to use her beauty against her, as a technique, by saying the right things to get her to give him some of the beauty. I am going over simply to state her beauty and to celebrate it with her. Lester needs something in return for going over. I do not expect anything, although in my experience sex and connection is the most common byproduct.

Most men only approach women and only give compliments, and only learn pick-up techniques because they want something in return, like a bartering system. I never expect anything. There is no trade off. Simply being in her feminine presence is all I need and desire, and I will be happy with whatever degree it goes to. I'm there to celebrate her. I have unapologetically approached many women and told them I had fallen madly in love with them within the first few seconds. Many guys would ask "Isn't that just needy behavior?" My response is always the same; "When your celebrating something, whatever you say is coming from an unattached passion", which is the opposite to being needy.

Think of the last time you ate a delicious meal, and you took the first bite and while chewing the delectable, tasty mouthful you blurted "Oh, my God, that is absolutely amazing!" celebrating the deliciousness of what you are experiencing. No one has ever said "Dude, you are being needy with your food and coming on too strong, give it a rest." Now, how would you say that to a woman? No doubt you would change exactly where its coming from while making it spew from an actual needy place, trying to do it all "right" in order for her to give you what she now apparently owes you. Women do not owe you a thing, especially if you are trying to take it all of the time.

When you can interact with a woman like you did with that amazing first bite of food, you my friend, will have a life surrounded by beautiful, loving, intelligent and sexy women from every walk of life. They will want to be around the man who unapologetically accepts his desires and roles as a man and gives them undying love.

If I feel low or I'm having a bad day, or I feel groggy, or sad then doing something as simple as interacting with the girl at the checkout counter in my local convenience store is enough to pull me right out of it. The feminine energy fills me and makes me feel amazing. It is intoxicating and changes my mood and day for the better. That is simply amazing, which is why I feel the need to be so appreciative. You don't need anti-depressants simply love women and their appreciation will pull you right out of your low state.

So, to finish up with Lester, after giving him a specific exercise to cultivate this level of love for women very quickly, his results skyrocketed when applying the principles which you will read in this guide. After his fourth Skype session, he was done and is currently seeing three regular girlfriends, along with having an endless stream of sexy women celebrating with him.

This guide is dedicated to women. As a man reading this, you are going to ultimately have a profound impact on spreading love and happiness to all of the women you choose to deliver your presence to. You cannot fear that which you love.

I want to make it clear that the principles I teach you to apply in this guide and seductions which are demonstrated throughout all stem from my love of women, and not from an "I'm too cool for you" or an "I'm better than you" place. The principles must not be seen as manipulation or as tactics because this will stunt your growth.

Instead, I apply the principles that I apply because of understanding what the feminine craves from the masculine. It's out of love that I have taken the time to learn and hone my level of interaction so I can give women what they truly desire. Doing so allows me to light up their life, as they do mine.

In today's modern world, we are outdated machines, being forced to adapt to a world that we did not create. We go through our lives, twisting ourselves in every direction in order to adapt to society as a whole. As men and women, we are slowly being guided away from our natural roles in life. I am speaking about the element of attraction, from masculine to feminine, and to do this, it helps to understand the root of both energies.

Male and female energy are very different in reality. They are opposites, perfectly complimenting each other when at their purest forms. Masculine energy, at its core, is that of nothingness and emptiness. He is the observer of life and emotion, always present, always feeling, always letting go. The masculine energy is strong, grounded, and with a clearly defining purpose that carries him through life with an unwavering self-assurance and awareness.

The female energy is that of motion, emotion, love, and compassion, which at the purest form is devastatingly seductive to the masculine. The masculine has an unattached void within. The female energy compliments and fills the masculine with love and guidance towards one's purpose.

In today's world, for whatever reasons, roles have begun to intertwine and shift from one to another. We see men confused and not really understanding what it is to be a man. Instead, we are paraded with social media on being a man. Masculine energy is, for all intents and purposes, being strangled. Masculine energy is very much being forced to retreat and men are becoming more feminine in nature. Today's alpha male type is the insecure, muscle bound, material craving, woman degrading little boys who are prevalent in society.

We are being forced to a point where we are told we need something to fulfil ourselves and become the idea of what we want to achieve in life. The truth of the matter is that when you try to learn from the outside or display your Alpha masculinity, it's transparent to the women you dream of. That's why people continue to learn, that's why there has been no key to those aspirations, there has been and never will be a technique that masters all others.

This belief and behavior is hazardous to the male, but also heavily affects what women resonate with and how both sexes bring out the best of one another.

Unfortunately, neither is good, and neither is pure. I do not have the time to delve into both and nitpick.

The Renaissance Man is simply a term I use to describe the evolved male. The Renaissance man offers the woman the freedom to break out of the mundane and frivolous confines of reality. He approaches with gusto and a knowing self-assurance that simply states, "I am a man. You are a woman. I want you".

The Renaissance Man embraces his masculine energy and is one hundred percent authentic in his intention. He does not hide his male desire, he does not fear it, he does not worry about offending the female, nor does he approach looking for a specific outcome. He is unapologetically himself. The Renaissance man offers the woman freedom, which is the masculine energy at its sexual core.

Renaissance men are surrounded in this world by either types of man or men aspiring to feed from the energy they create; men who are unable or unwilling to reach their core. Hiding from themselves and manipulating women, they are the nice guys of society.

I have to be clear when using the term nice guy. I am referring to the insecure friend zone type of male who believes by putting his purpose in life to one side or by giving the female everything he can by spoiling her with gifts and jumping to her every command and constant affection, that this will sure enough guarantee entry to her swim suit area.

This is absolutely and without question wrong. This is not coming from a place of love, respect and mutual recognition as a man and the respective female, but a place of self-loathing, showing needy behavior. Instead there is no respect or attraction built from the female. If a man loses his purpose to give it all to a woman then attraction and respect will be lost, as the man does not even have it for himself. A man's relationship to his own emotions is a direct reflection to how he relates to female energy.

Emotion is the female energy. Do not for one second think that you can hide who you really are from a woman. The female energy is beautifully present and intuition is at a much higher frequency in the female. Your issues, insecurities, fears, etc. will be blatantly obvious to her. That should be a good enough reason to stop hiding. She will have you pinned from the first few seconds of coming into contact with your male presence.

It is a sign of amazing strength in a man to be emotionally open and vulnerable with a woman. Your self-acceptance and honesty will spark attraction in and of itself. Hiding how you are feeling will be permeable and weak to a woman.

Remember that female energy is emotion. In order to generate attraction, the male energy needs to be playful with emotion. The man needs to generate every possible emotion in the female, all while she feels secure and safe, keeping her in a state of suspense.

Female energy is not necessarily attracted to the man, but is attracted to the emotional states of which the man provides and infuses while in her presence. If I could give one piece of advice in this case is, when with a woman, be present. Women are beautifully intuitive creatures; more so than the masculine can ever be. By not being present you strangle her raw ability to take you places you have never experienced. If you are not present with a woman, in the moment, spontaneity cannot flow, and the fun, attraction, and deep connection will not be made. Stop trying to be cool. Cool does not exist. You exist, and now exist. Be you, now.

Be unapologetically honest about who you are and what you want in all aspects of life. Something that speaks volumes about the male energy is the ability to comfortably hold eye contact. Ninety percent of men are unable to deal with eye contact as it represents an inner openness and confidence that is not present. The more you grow inside, the more you will be able to connect with the female. Let the female energy engulf you.

The Renaissance man's approach leaves the female energy refreshed and energetically dominated in a natural and polarizing way, which is essential. The competitive other males watch, as he systematically goes against every rule in their how to attract a female booklet that they supposedly believe in.

They watch as the Renaissance man straps the woman into an emotional rollercoaster of fun and excitement. It perplexes them. This level of sensory awareness of self and emotion allows the Renaissance man to discover places in a woman that are emotionally inaccessible by other men. Thus, the entire surface level male sees "attraction"; he does not understand what is unfolding before his eyes. He is incapable of comprehending the level of self-worth, inner value, comfort and acceptance this man has achieved.

Contrary to popular belief in this sexist world where females are running ninety percent of men, they do not want this job. Women want to be women, and they want men to be men. In my highly provocative opinion, highly sexist women or women's rights warriors are, at their core, angry and resentful that they cannot experience a man strong enough to lead them, dominate them, and naturally take on the role of the man. I understand the mayhem this statement would cause in a lot of women's groups, but I believe this to be very true at an energetically fundamental level.

Women in today's society will test men on a daily, hourly, second by second bases, to see if you are a real man. This can involve harsh criticisms and objective comments attempting to throw the man off balance and play with his ego. If the man fails, it is all just downhill from that point. Men must lead. In no way do I mean this in a misogynistic fashion, nor am I placing men above women, I am simply stating the fact that men and women both hold different roles in nature. Know your role, and do not leave anyone else convince you otherwise.

Give women the opportunity to experience an emotional roller coaster of shock to laughter to a little fear, to suspense, and all in a matter of seconds. On the outside, society may perceive the Renaissance man as uninhibited, but when at the very core, he knows with every ounce of his being exactly what is needed in any moment to induce attraction in women. We must make her feel unsafe, and secure all at once. She must be angry and aroused simultaneously, with our tonality, body language, and our deep lust. This is not done through words or social interaction, but on a completely subconscious level.

People can observe the Renaissance man engaging in a simple everyday conversation, but on a deeper level, only he and she can truly feel it. This is once again, where the Renaissance man differs from the common males. When sexual energy or sexual connection is felt, the common male will get uneasy and disperse it by moving and jumping from the moment. This will not allow the female energy to engage. She will be disappointed, and the attraction will instantly dissolve. Sexual energy is the Renaissance man's playground. He generates it within himself, initiates it in her by creating states between himself and women, holds it, and allows it to build in the moment, thereby giving the female full permission to be in the moment and explore it.

Most women in this day and age will start to get overwhelmed with it and attempt to disperse it with nervous self-conscious gestures. This is where he keeps her in the moment and reassures her so they can both explore further. The Renaissance man does one simple, yet profound thing that is unknown to the common man: he projects the female more beautifully than she can see herself. This comes from a deep love of the feminine energy. He embraces it. He loves it. He wants it. He goes and gets it.

We anchor the feeling of excitement and spontaneity. We give in to our urges aggressively, and the female clings to this passion that is inside all of them. At the opposite side, the devolved male projects his insecure, unsafe care. Women do not need care. They need to be expressed through the male energy, and with that comes the greatest safety of all, sexual immunity to threat. You stop being concerned by the competition. You realize that you are at the forefront of the development of the human species by raising your social sexual awareness and allowing this to create your world. You become detached from weakness and your sabotaging thoughts but you must never forget to listen.

You must listen, but do not take everything on board. She does not attract to us, but rather the moments we conceive through her and place on her. Men live in logic, women live through emotion and it is very foolish of a man to try to break it down to understand her. Do not quiz her, but let her feel her emotions safely with you. Be there as an extra medium of expression for the female energy. She wants a new frame of reality only offered by the internally evolved and aware man. Be that man. Be you, as best you can.

All these questions and fears all stem from one problem: inability to focus. You are not focused on the woman and what it is exactly that you want, but instead, on yourself. You are being selfish and very egotistical. You are attempting to think for the woman. That's quite arrogant of you isn't it?

When you see a woman you are instantly attracted to, ask yourself:

• What is it exactly about this woman that is attracting me?
• Is it her beautifully long feminine legs?
• Is it her breasts?
• Is it her curves?
• Is it her smile?
• Is it her lips?
• Is it the way she carries herself?

When you figure out what is attracting you, you must move on to the next important questions:

• What do you want from her?
• Do you want a relationship?
• Do you want a friendship?
• Do you just want sex?

Once you know, focus only on this. You don't need to worry about being direct and you don't need to worry about being indirect. Celebrate the effect she is having on you. Breathe, relax, drop your tone, slip into the sexual masculinity that resides within you. Glance at her and stop your thoughts. Your meditation is now.

This will be your meditative state. The more you do this the more your mindset will begin to shift and you truly begin focusing on your dreams, not what you are afraid to want. Women want to be desired.

Begin to focus on what you dream of. Be your own man. If they don't like what you have to say, or they do not share the same desires as you then so be it. When you are present with women, there is no such thing as rejection, just someone who does not happen to want what you want.

Do not mistake this for a numbers game. Numbers are for objects.

What follows is a guiding process. Many avenues of understanding and examples will be coupled with very simple and straight forward practical steps to complete your puzzle. Rather than giving you three big pieces of the puzzle in one way, I am instead offering hundreds of tiny pieces of in-depth expressions and understandings rooted in many examples of real life application, saturating your old negative belief system and way of thinking, which will allow you to build and complete your own puzzle.

I am not here to turn you into me, but rather to give you as much education on how the masculine interacts with the feminine, in order for you to mold it to your unique and individual self, resulting in absolutely effortless seductions, connections and love with the women of your dreams. This is where success lies. Let's get started.

Let's be frank and get this out of the way. There is no such thing as the perfect mind set for seduction. It simply doesn't exist. If you go out of your way to put yourself in a mind frame for seduction, you immediately create anxiety, over thinking, and all of the mental blocks that together build a mind frame of hesitation and worry. Ironically, getting yourself all set for a day of approaching women creates the worst possibly state for seduction. You should never have to force yourself into the role of being a man. You are already there, in every case. All guys' anxieties and worries come directly from a made up pressure you have deliberately created for yourself, before even leaving your house.

When I leave my house, it's never to approach or pick up women. Instead, it is to go about my life, whether that is going to the local store to buy milk for breakfast or travelling across town to meet a friend. If I so happen to see a woman that catches my eye on the way, then yes, I am going to say "hi." Women are not numbers. Have something more than days of cruising to offer them, and they will repay you greatly for being a passionate man.

These are just a few that I can remember using and when I talk with my students as they tend to come up over and over again. Sit down with a pen and paper, and think about it. What are your negative beliefs about yourself that are stopping your success with women?

Write them down, and on the opposite side, write down the opposite of that negative belief; the positive version. Read these new positive ones as often as you can.

The beauty about beliefs is that neither the positive nor the negative are true. They have no basis in reality, so you can choose the most powerful beliefs you want in order to move you in the direction of self improvement, growth and success. I could choose to believe I am crap with women and none of them like me, or I could choose to believe that I am an amazingly charismatic and a charming rogue of a man who women adore. Neither is actually true, but what the positive belief will achieve is me taking action and walking over to the stunning blonde to say "hi", while thinking in my head "You my dear are a lucky devil I've just decided to come and speak to you."

Choose your beliefs because either way, you are the director of your own movie, whether you like it or not, you write the scripts, so stop killing yourself off. Think big!

Guys learning to get good with women, at the start, get very regimented. I see it very often. They pile an extraordinary amount of pressure on themselves trying to do everything perfect straight away. This pressure is then built and built if they are not being guided correctly or not experiencing success in their own terms, to the point that it becomes an internal pressure cooker, inducing long states of fight or flight which, when it comes to approaching and seducing women is like pissing against the wind.

Throw the idea of perfection away. It doesn't exist. Enjoy making mistakes, it means you're learning. This leads to spontaneity and creativity. You let go of the reigns and enjoy the journey.

There is nothing in life worth gripping, because whether we like it or not, we are all on the way out. We have no control. Give it up. Let it go and act from abundant acceptance.

When you see that girl and you feel that pressure build, let it go, and instead say to yourself: "I can make her feel amazing" and go say hello. Don't take, give. Don't ask, offer.

Many teachers and coaches in the area of dating and self-growth speak about the concept of destroying your ego, in order to simply "not give a fuck" while running after women blindly. Also, to make that pitch even better, your ego can apparently be destroyed in a two day weekend, says the shiny advertising.

Why on earth would we choose to go against, become enemies with, and even think of destroying something which is an innate part of us? Your ego houses your identity to a large degree. If you run through life on autopilot, refusing to self-reflect and look inward at times, then your ego will control you, and determine your decisions in life. Yes, this is bad in terms of living the life you truly desire. With some simple awareness of how it influences you, can you begin to interact with it positively, to your advantage, with life changing results.

Monks sit in temples for decades trying to destroy their ego, in order to reach a state of ego death, which is most of the time incredibly unsuccessful. Unless you are willing to swallow fourteen ounces of magic mushrooms in one, or partake in an Ayahuasca ceremony, which will only destroy your ego for a few hours, then please gentlemen; stop making war upon yourself and pissing against the wind.

Instead, choose to become friends with your ego. Consciously mold it in a way which benefits you and guides you towards what you desire in life. Fine tune your ego, losing what doesn't serve you, and adding what creates success.

Many of the men that I see for personal training arrive to me very broken and financially bust from these companies and individuals who offer to destroy your ego, making unrealistic, unfair, and very selfish promises. In this case, the teacher is moving down the road of an ego-maniac. In short, the doctor is sicker than the patient.

Choose to love yourself, every single part. You can only succeed.

This thing we call rejection is probably the first and most fundamentally large mound of fear to break through when you are looking to begin immersing yourself in women. Most men classify rejection as a bad thing, but I wouldn't know, because I never get rejected.

First, we need to define rejection in its appropriate terms. To me, rejection can only occur once I have already walked over to a girl, got her attention, and begun seducing, not before. Saying hello to a girl or telling her that she is cute or sexy, with her storming off offended or weirded out is not rejection. You didn't even get a chance to begin. Count yourself lucky she left, because nobody wants to hang around talking to someone who doesn't want to be there.

In order to be rejected, you must have already begun the natural process of seducing her, but really even at that stage, I never see it as personal, it's simply a human being who doesn't happen to want what I want in this particular moment in time, that's it. I tell every guy I coach that the most empowering, positive, and educational part of my journey of becoming a great seducer was getting rejected. Before you take the plunge to walk over and introduce yourself, the thought of her making a weirded out face is the most terrifying thing on the planet. But, when it actually happens, it is nothing, ever. This induces intense relief and a mountainous overflowing of positive energy and internal strength. You also feel like an absolute champion for taking the simple and obvious action, which most men are too afraid to do.

Are you comfortable living your life alone and sad while never achieving what you want, all because you're afraid of sitting in a two second window of awkward tension with a person you probably will never see again and which will have zero negative impact on your life? Approaching that pretty girl you see in line at the coffee shop, or the sexy brunette standing at the bar in a completely imperfect and natural way will result in one of two things.

She will look at you like you're a creep and you will walk away feeling like a champion for facing your fears. This awkward situation will last all of two seconds.
Or... She will love you and you will have amazing sex with her, and you will both enrich each other's lives.

If you are allowing a possible two seconds of awkward tension to stop you from having an amazing girl in your life, you should check your mental health records, because you may be crazy.

It's okay though, because I was there, we were all, and in some cases continue to be there. It's the knowing and acceptance that rejection really ain't no thang that will make you amazing with women. With this belief system in tow, you will effortlessly go out and speak to every attractive woman you see, because really, what do you ever have to lose?

There is no perfect approach. I keep saying this. You must go out and fail in order to succeed, but again, the failing is so miniscule compared to the succeeding. Any guy who asks me for advice on women, I will first ask him how many women a week he interacts with. Usually the answer is very close to zero. So I say "Okay, your question is irrelevant because you have not even begun the task of which you are asking the question. Here is your job: Next week, as you are going about your daily life, speak to around twenty women, get blown out on purpose if you want as this relieves any pressure, and if you still have the same question, I can help you. Right now, I cannot".

The guys who do this, the question is usually answered very quickly, they go on to accelerate and have lots of sex. The guys who don't read another guide, slink away into their dark bedroom and continue to over think. It's sad, but it's true. The amazing thing about this, is that it is completely your choice.

It's also so common with guys I coach. They arrive, either stuck on an ex, or have all their focus on one girl which is causing them unhappiness and sexual frustration. They have also been Friend-zoned in many cases. After approaching a handful of women, facing their fears, seeing rejection as a good thing, and becoming aware just how easy it is to be the master of your sex life, the obsessions, the neediness, and the focus on that one girl disappears. But not by choice, simply because he is too pre-occupied having fun meeting new women.

If you are stuck on a girl, speak to more women. Neediness isn't a human emotion. It's a deficiency which comes from hiding from your sexual instinct. Speak to women. Speak to every woman you see.

Every single one of us spends way too much time arguing with ourselves over silly little things when we should be doing things instead. I'll give you an example of what I mean. I was out at the beach the other day when a very nice looking family from Germany happened to unroll their towels and sit down close to where I was. I instantly fell in love with the daughter. She kept glancing over and locking eyes with me, the tension was evident, even from five feet away. I spent the next ten minutes arguing with myself internally on why I shouldn't approach her, even though I wanted to speak to her. The excuses your mind makes up on the spot is incredible, such as:

After hundreds more of these excuses, I eventually said "screw it. What's the absolute worst thing that could happen? The dad will put me in a sleeper hold". I came to the conclusion that I would be ok with that.

"Hello, do you speak English?" I asked. They did!
"I have spent the last ten minutes too afraid to speak to you, but I had to come over to announce I have fallen in love with your beautiful daughter."

I was greeted with a wonderfully kind and light-hearted reaction from the family. She was quite embarrassed, but loosened up pretty quickly. Unfortunately they leave to go back to Germany tomorrow, but the point is, I did it, even when every logical ounce of my brain was telling me otherwise. If I had left without taking action, I would have felt a sense of failure, self-loathing, and anger towards myself. It's a nasty cycle. Instead, I broke it down, chose otherwise, and had a great conversation with a nice group of people for over an hour, exchanging details.

If this sounds familiar to your own process, then become aware of your patterns and realize that through awareness and bravery, you can choose to accept that you have the power to take action whenever you want. I will, one day, meet Sophia again, and she will receive my delicious bratwurst of love!

Confidence with women comes from trusting that you are not the power. The power exists with or without your permission. It is nature's power coming through, and all you must do is allow it. The word confidence is thrown around by everyone within self-help, but the meaning is different to just about everybody. To me, confidence is not about feeling cool, calm and unfazed in every situation. If that is your definition of confidence, then I am not confident. In my opinion, confidence is feeling fear, and just doing it regardless, because deep down, we really know that taking the specific action will benefit our existence on this planet, and in turn, help others to take a lunge towards happiness.

We are not robots, we are human beings. That girl you are talking to is probably far more insecure than you are. Realize this, and stop searching for perfection within you emotional range and results with women, such as the perfect approach. You are searching for a false sense of perfection, which does not exist, and only stops you from excelling and growing through failure and experience. I am vulnerable in every approach I make. This is how you connect and achieve mind-blowing results.

We are all human; we just try to pretend we are not. When you blatantly allow yourself be human and vulnerable in front of someone else, you give them the permission to do the same. There is no right or wrong way when seducing a woman, just like there is no magic line, or sure shot technique for getting the girl. Success in this area of your life comes directly from your understanding about how masculine interacts with feminine. This guide is specifically aimed at giving you the understanding you need, in order to effortlessly attract and seduce women.

You can't walk past a magazine stand without seeing sexy women splashed across glossy mags, with the top ten ways to be sexy for your man type of articles advertised within. However, one area you don't see alluded to in the mainstream media is that of how men can be sexy, or what it means to be a sexy man. I believe that part of the absence of this is down to male ego and sensitivity. I think this is so, mainly because in order to define masculine sexiness, it would be going against many socially correct and gender equality issues.

Before I continue, I will ask you, who in your mind is the sexier man and why:

Now, here are few words that describe the actions, vibes, and qualities of a sexy man, and how the internal focus of sexiness is manifested into his external world in the form of body language and communication:

The above is a list of the main qualities in a man that drive women absolutely crazy and turn them on in ways in which they rarely experience with the unaware guy. Read it, learn it, and love it.

The ability to create sexual tension and sit in it comfortably is the main difference between an effortlessly sexy man who gets quick results and a bumbling over-active supplicatory guy who goes out of his way at every point to make the woman feel okay, happy and comfortable at all times, never wanting to step on her toes. This is the typical crutch of the nice guy, who feels he has to be super nice and overly accommodating to earn a woman's attraction. For some reason the majority of guys you see interacting with women will be doing one of the following things in order to absolutely kill any chance of sexual tension, and release pressure continuously.

The above are the main areas that you can go out right now and see happening immediately. I'd bet while reading through that list, many of them will sound familiar to your individual interactions. Well, this is good, because now you have awareness to it. With practice you can shed all of these overtly accommodating and weak traits.

You are not the woman's gay best friend, so stop pretending to be. When you ask her a question in a slow relaxed and sexy manner, allow her to answer fully. Do not jump in, do not offer a remedy, and do not move onto your next factual question. Allow her to delve and to fill the silence. And how do you do that? You do it by giving her silence. Also, when you are looking at her while she speaks, look directly into her left eye and feel her. Feel her wrapped around your penis. It's a certainty, enjoy it. She will feel this, and you will be very surprised by the interconnection of both energies. Be aware of how she begins to blush, break eye contact, and giggle for absolutely no reason. When she finishes her sentence, allow a second or two space from her. This will do two awesome things, such as:

By not being as reactive to her amazing hotness as all the other over eager guys, this will instantly intrigue her. I want to make it clear that the deep love you have for women will shine through regardless. The reactive man is only reacting due to an insecure neediness and confusion.

Her inner monologue will be something like; "Why the hell is he not jumping through hoops to get me? Ahhh, maybe this guy is different. Maybe this is the man who can give me what I desire." I have literally had gorgeous girls ask me "Hey, why are you not trying to get me? Do you even like me?" Then following their question by initiating the kiss because they could not handle any more tension I was placing on them. It's the sexual tension bubble, where your environment and surroundings disappear, and you are both sitting in this sexually charged and bubbling dome of sexual energy and it is powerful.

Be clear that this is not a technique but rather an adaption of your behavior to align yourself with your new understanding of sexual polarization. An understanding of how the masculine and feminine interact at their polar opposites. Being socially correct will not get her into bed, being polarizing within your masculine core will, and fast.

Approaching refers to an action that has not even occurred yet. When you go out solely to approach women, you are planning to think about a situation that has not even happened. This drives the logical, analytical brain into over-drive, and immediately begins to create an internal battle within. Anxiety and worry is formed.

I will keep repeating; never go out to approach women. Go out to buy some milk or go to the bank or go for a walk, or whatever it is you do with yourself, and if you happen to see a woman that attracts you, go tp her. There is never any pressure for you to speak with a woman, so please, do not put that pressure on yourself. It is unnecessary and detrimental to your happiness.

You're always a man, you are always on, attraction is always on and women are always on. You can speak with a beautiful woman whenever you desire to. You have a penis, so you are automatically attractive to her. Where men mess up is by trying to do or say too much in order to impress a woman. This is what drags you away from your masculine core and you kill the attraction yourself, on purpose. You are getting in your own way.

The above is far from the truth and involves much more logical work. It's hideous and is actually damaging your ability to truly connect with and sexually stimulate a woman.

A king does not need to state the fact he is the king because simply having or feeling the need to do so means that he is not the king. The king is the king. He knows, they know, and it is such a ridiculously stupid and time-wasting chore to state such an obvious point.

You are an amazing man. You are sexy, strong, stimulating, and intelligent. You are the lead character in the movie that is your life. You choose who you are, what you experience, how you live, and what you deserve in any instance. You do not have the need to explain this to a woman or take on behavior which attempts to do so.

The postman does not have to tell me he is the postman, because of course he is the postman, he is delivering my mail. The postman has never once told me a story of that one time he delivered five hundred packages in one day to ensure I get the fact he is a postman. His feeling the need to show this to me would basically make me feel like he assumes I'm stupid or suffering from a mental impairment. Do you assume women you are attracted to are stupid? If so, close this guide and do not contact me. If you understand this point, then please read on, internal freedom awaits.

You do not have to convince a woman that you are an amazing guy with a penis who delivers orgasms, love, connection, security and excitement. She already knows you do, you were born without a choice. You naturally have a penis.

All of the above is fact, and you cannot do anything about it, other than unconsciously getting in your own way with untrue beliefs, and pushing women away from you. But even at that, you cannot resist forever.

There will be one night in a bar when you get a little too drunk, and a vagina will find your penis. Just give up. Give up getting in your own way. Give up doing, saying, and acting too much. Try being quiet around women, or to get the point across even stronger, trying making eye contact with a woman and shutting the fuck up, say a few words, listening, and letting her speak, play, and become attracted.

Leave space for sexual tension to bubble, let nature take its course and allow that beautiful woman to feel sexually charged animalistic attraction for you, which results in continuously effortless seductions and sex. Nature is effortless, as we see on a daily basis. Trees grow, the rain falls, night becomes day, women are sexually attracted to men and demonstrate this through sexual intimacy. Stop getting in the way.

You know this, deep down, every man does. You explain and try to impress a woman, because you currently lack a tiny bit of understanding which I am just about to finish clearing up for you. Women are the most sensitive, aware and intuitional species on this planet, so you do not have to point out how amazing you are, nor do you need to impress them. They see you, and they see how amazing you are. You are amazing. Having to state it is a waste of time, especially when you could be turning her on. This is what she wants. It's not about becoming perfect or indestructible. It's about choosing to succeed regardless of fear.

You should not have time to think of what to say. This is a form of hesitation, which is the logical, and anxiety fueled devil when it comes to interacting with women. Thinking is exactly why you have not spoken to her yet. Openers are a direct extension of that negative thought process. Openers only exist in the land of hesitation. This is why you are not over there speaking to her. After reading the above section on freedom, and I hope re-reading again and again until you feel that shift, here is guidance towards your masculine core when it comes to effortlessly interacting and seducing the feminine. Take note of how short it is.

Examples of what phrases sometimes pop into my head when I shift to my masculine core:

Although my main intent is always the same:

I know that all I have to do is show up, begin the interaction, say hello, and my job is pretty much done. From then on in, it is not me who is actually seducing her, so this takes all the pressure off. Instead, it is my vibe and my presence that I live in through the understanding of the principles of what the feminine responds to. She basically carries out the rest of the process; I'm simply giving her the space and comfort to do so.

Come up with something that works for you and what you desire. Practice by watching women and repeating this phrase mentally over and over until you feel it take over you. This is the secret. This is animalistic projection. This is what seduces for you. Anxiety and over-thinking does not exist in this space. It is supremely powerful, and the amazing thing is, you can change what you telegraph to her second by second, depending on the situation. Your internal thought pattern shifts the vibe, and the vibe shifts your body language and voice tone in a way that is intoxicatingly overwhelming and congruent to the woman.

Following the guiding and focusing process as described above dismantles and destroys any chance of hesitation. Without hesitation, acting in that moment, whatever you say will be coming from a focused, relaxed and unassuming place. This is presence within the moment.

If you ever feel stress or anxiety around women, it is only a sign that you are not present with her, and that you have hesitated in acting, such as touching her, or moving into kiss her. The very fact that the idea of touching or kissing has entered your mind is a direct influence of your instinct, which you need to be following and trusting one hundred percent of the time. Trust your penis and act immediately when you hear that nudge or desires arrive. It will never let you down.

Many people who bring out books in this area fill it with excessive information regarding every different aspect and stage of attraction. This is unnecessary and actually serves to diminish what they are trying to teach; something natural.

I will not speak to you about when to kiss a girl, or what to say to a girl, or how to progress with a girl, because if and when you choose to let go of the fear and control which has no basis in reality, and truly internalize what I have spoken about above, Then you will never have a single question, for me, or anybody when it comes to interacting with women.

This is pretty much all there is, and all you need. I am completely against overloading guys' brains with any more information than they need. What I am recommending is to forget everything you have ever been told and simply focus on devouring her while in her presence. Your penis and her vagina will meet.

One of the huge differences between success with women and little results with women is the awareness in noticing when you are being given an invitation to approach, or understanding when a woman is giving you signs of general attraction before you are even interacting. It also saves a lot of time. The general population of men in the western world seems to be completely unaware of when a woman is interested sexually. Most of the time, the signs are very subtle and delicate, because women are socially intelligent and sensitive to cues. Knowing this gives you a good insight into how she may like to be seduced. Delivering your attraction in a discreet and suave way is the highest form of expression, to a woman, that you are on her level of awareness, and that you understand how she works as a woman, therefore your need to throw yourself like an overly obvious bull in a china shop is unnecessary.

It is a magic moment within the interaction, when you are seducing with such effortless and fine-tuned grace that she shows her appreciation. It can be a simple astounded giggle while shaking her head and quietly sliding the back of her fingers across yours while you are both in the midst of a social group. This is the essence of seduction. If a girl makes eye contact with me for more than 2 seconds, I am walking over to speak with her, regardless. This was an open invitation that only the aware and capable man can pick up on.

This awareness says many things about you as a sexually proficient and discreetly seductive man. But fear not. Many women will try their absolute best to make it easy for us, by looking again, and again, and again. Some women will even smile at you.

Unfortunately each woman has her own threshold of frustration. If you do not act, she will eventually label you as unequipped, get annoyed with the state of masculinity in the world, and look for a different and better option.This area of understanding alone is one of the biggest factors to having a large amount of women in your life for sex, love, and connection. Once you are conscious of what to become aware of, abundance flows. Do not forget, you do not have to rely on the woman to have attraction. Using the guidance and internal focusing from this guide, you can easily stimulate attraction first with your presence, allowing you to then proceed as stated.

Well, there you have it! I hope you found the first part of my two part guide to be very informative and inspirational. I want you to re-read it and take every to heart, then read it all again. I'll have even more information for you next week and bring you new techniques that will help you become the man that you want to be.

Your homework right now is to get outside and talk to some women! Talk to every single one that you see who strikes your fancy. Talk to them about anything and remember to listen!

Remember to have fun and I'll see you next week!