Dates Advantage

Introduction

In this guide, I will teach you how to tap into your inner masculine strength and become the man that you know you can be. You will learn, through introspection and self-awareness, how to approach women and seduce them through the power of simply being yourself.

In this second part, I will teach you about some of my actual seduction from the recent past and break them down for you, so you can understand just how and why they worked. I will help you to toss away any misconceptions that you may have about the road to seduction, as well as well as any that you may have about yourself or your role as a man. I will bring you from realizing your full potential all of the way to recognizing the subtle signals that women send out when they want to be romanced and seduced.

Please take everything I lay out here to heart and realize that it all comes from a place of introspection and experience. If there is something that you don't understand, try re-reading it until you really get it. Enjoy.

Comfort

Masculinity, in the modern society that we all call home, is struggling to keep its foothold. Because of this, our self-development as men has gone through changes that both good and bad. While I can't go through all of the reasons that this is so, I can touch upon the outcomes.

The good

There are many honest, courageous and spiritually aware men sharing vital information with their fellow man, in order to re-align 21st century masculinity. Reconnecting their brothers to the core of what it truly means to be a solid, present, authentic, and charismatically charming rogue of a man, with his purpose and testicles.

Here the strive for focused, refined, suave, and dapper gentlemanly greatness is encouraged, with the path clearly marked out by men who have struggled through to reach and play in this effortlessly abundant area of being and passed it down if you will. This is great, and is where I see myself, and what we I endeavor to teach on a consistent basis. But, such is nature; there is a Yin to every Yang.

The bad

Here, men who have through no fault of their own followed others down a road of disassociation with their masculine selves, living from a space of unworthiness, self-loathing and neediness. These unfulfilled internal expressions are strangled and perpetuated even more by the material which this school of men has chosen to commit themselves to and teach one another. I know, because I was a part of this school not so long ago.

These are the individuals who define women as numbers, interactions as sets, being sexually social as cruising, and a whole load of other terms used simply to detach from the process of true connection with a woman, and thus from themselves as natural instinctual sexual beings. In essence, making it far more complicated for them to achieve what all of us are striving for.

All of these techniques guys feel they need to learn in order to trick a woman into bed is only fuelling their internal image of themselves that states "I am not enough, I am not worthy." If you have browsed around many websites, you will of course know that there are many different areas or modules in order to seduce a woman according to the "I am not worthy" way of practice.

Incredibly large books, audio packages and video courses have been created solely on each individual area of the seductive process, everything from approach openers about homosexual cats, escalation, to entire books on text game, right up to how to win back your Ex. Right now I am going to deal with one topic that is hugely discussed and written about in an incredibly unbeneficial way by many gurus out there that is the concept of comfort.

Building comfort

Anyone who knows me personally can attest to the fact that I am a generally very laid back, introverted and indifferent kind of man, which is clearly evident in my way of interacting with women and life. I put this down to spiritual evolution and internal understanding through long periods of meditation, which continue.

But when I see a new marketing campaign from a dating company advertising products on building comfort, I celebrate the ridiculousness of such a silly and unaware message, by giving myself full permission to lose myself in a celebratory kind of fashion. I face-palm myself heavily until bruises begin to form. I can only speak from my own personal experience of being really terrible with women; aka confused with who I was, to going through the personal growth and getting consistently successful with women. My own experience is all I can ever speak from, and in my experience, the concept of building comfort is completely contradicting the essence of true comfort.

Yin and Yang

As men and women, our species interact as complete opposites in our purest forms of energetic states. That is to say, when a man is purely in his masculine, and the women purely in her feminine, this is polarization, and is the foundation of sexual attraction, tension, emotional connection and spiritual recognition between the sexes which manifest as love, sexual desire, and that deep ache in our loins that tells you when it's time to move to the next step. With that in mind, the yin of a man inherently affects the yang of a woman. Emotional states of being are sub-communicated immediately upon interaction, and sometimes before each other even walks into a room.

Back to basics

Let's look at the concept of building comfort again. This is really the long way around. Building it is unnecessary, and as I related to before, it is completely obsolete and contradictory. Comfort, is comfort. It's an emotional state which affects you mentally and physically and is then projected out into the world.

If you approach a woman and you are in a state of analytical nervousness, you are currently building nervousness within the interaction. She will feel this nervous awkward guy projecting this feeling of weirdness on her, which she will not like, as she begins to then feel your weirdness herself, in most cases wanting to get away from the interaction, i.e. 'rejecting' you. It never really matters what you are actually saying, it's all vibe.

In my opinion, this is one of the biggest issues guys have with getting consistent results approaching women. Would you blame her? How would you like it if some girl approached you acting all shifty and odd? Not comfortable and looking for release from that feeling of discomfort. You would be in flight mode. You would have this innate feeling that "Something is up here, something isn't quite right, I'm not sure what it is, but I don't like how its making me feel and i must get away from it."

Focus

Guys are made to focus so much on fixing their approach anxiety which isn't even a real thing. I'm afraid you have all been duped into thinking you have this problem. This "problem" you have, gets all of your focus as you prepare to begin an interaction with this girl, along with all the stuff you have been told you must remember to say or do, in an incredibly uptight and anxious way by creeping her out and feeling like she is trying to be convinced to buy something. Now, let's look at this differently.

Evolved comfort

You wake up in the morning and you do your usual twenty minutes of mindfulness meditation before leaving your house. You walk out the door chilled out and emotionally indifferent, sitting in a space of content well-being. You see an attractive girl, so you decide to walk over and share your calm and grounded charisma with her. There is no line or opener in your head, just your appreciation for her.

With the internal knowing that you actually have nothing you must do or say to impress her, and with your trust that you have a penis, she has a vagina, and that people have been having sex for thousands and thousands of years, you give it up, let go, and slowly make your way up to her, lock eyes, and say "Hello, how are you? The way you walk is stunning." Delivered in a calm, grounded and chilled out way.

You are not there to take her purity. You are not there to convince her of anything. Instead you have decided to share your gift with this very lucky woman, expecting nothing while being present in the moment.

How do you feel? You feel comfortable of course. With all the above beliefs how could you not? it is expressed through every bit of you. How does she feel? She feels comfortable, because really, as long as she chooses to be in your presence, she has no choice. Gentlemen of the world, please take note: You do no build comfort. You bring comfort with you.

Having to build something states, in quite a matter of fact way, that it's not there in the first place. Why you ask? Do not look to the woman for the answers. You are the question, answer and the solution every time. Look first to your internal thoughts, actions and reactions.

The importance of comfort

No woman is going to go to bed with a man she does not feel comfortable around. When you have the ability to mesmerize women with your own oozing self-comfort for the socially odd aspects of you interacting with her, you will allow her to follow you into sexual scenarios that the un-evolved man would never in a million years achieve. It gives her permission to follow you. It lets her know that you can handle what is, and what's about to happen.

This is one of the biggest differences between waiting 5 dates before sex, and approaching the same girl in the supermarket, and twenty minutes later having her bent over, pleading to be spanked harder in her apartment which was just around the corner. Your reality is dictated by what you feel you deserve. When you are unattached and indifferent to the present moment, a deep comfort is expressed, a letting go, a giving it up to the ebb and flow of human sexual desire. Allowing your instinct and intuition to take the driver's seat and trusting it.

Give the woman trust in you, and a willingness to receive all which you desire to offer her. So, start, by learning to be internally comfortable whichever way the wind blows. Learn to be indifferent. Meditate. It will change how you relate with every aspect of your life.

A Real Life Seduction

I'm going to tell you a story about one of my last seductions. Everything that follows is true. Take the information that I give you in this anecdote to heart.

Expect nothing but give everything

I left my friend's place with an overwhelming headache and generally feeling terrible. "I must be coming down with something" I thought.

As I stood outside on the busy pedestrian street, I needed to catch my balance a bit, I was feeling very lightheaded. As I took a phone call, I glanced to the right, where I saw an absolutely adorable girl, standing there, looking incredibly bored. I judged this immediately by the unimpressed look on her face and how she was standing with her arms folded. Maybe she was leaning toward being a tad bit angry, or frustrated.

I hung up the call, took a breath to become somewhat aware of my currently wobbly energetic core, allowed myself to imagine her naked, on top of me, slowly riding me up and down, in a controlled a sexy manner. This was all I needed. I had clicked into my seductive state. My voice tone lowered, my chest engulfed with a strong purposeful inhale, I rolled my pelvis slightly forward, pumping my focus and awareness into my penis. I could feel her. I could feel her warmth and her texture. I moved.

I slowly walked over. First, I locked eyes with her, where my desire was instantly telegraphed through my entire presence, through my entire desire, which I had allowed take over. My instinct was in the driver's seat. She was mine; every last piece of her.

"It could be worse" I said, in a slow, growling tone.

She instantly shifted states. She felt me and responded as though someone had just shook her awake, taking her out of her head, away from her autopilot. She immediately re-aligned her posture and way of being, to that of a more upbeat social girl.

She laughed "what could be worse?"

I ignored her question. "Hi." I extended my hand with a slight smirk.

"Maria" she responded, while placing her silk like hand into mine. I didn't let go, not once.

I held eye contact with her while in my head thinking "You know what's going to happen don't, you Maria?" The tension and silence built for a few seconds. She blushed, averted my gaze, and both of us started gently laughing.

I adore this point in an interaction. This is mutual understanding. I know what's happening, she knows what's happening, and in this case, through the expression of laughter, we were consciously letting each other know of the understanding.

"Do you always have this effect on girls?" she asked in a testing way, trying to throw my state, but deep down hoping that I am strong enough for her.

"That was cute" I responded, in a completely authentic way. I did find it cute. Every last morsel of how she said it made me want to squeeze her, so I did. I pulled her in by the hand I was already holding and began to embrace her in the middle of the street.

"Tell me something." I offered.

She spoke about herself for a bit, telling me her story, as people tend to. We continued to hug, in broad daylight, in a busy street, for the duration of her story. When she finished I pulled back, but kept her draped around me.

"You're sexy aren't you?"

She giggled. I moved in to kiss her. She turned her head, it landing on her cheek. She started to become overwhelmed with giggles, with her sexual energy bubbling. She was unaware of how to deal with it.

"Relax." I said

"Wow, this is nuts, I've just met you, I literally know nothing about..." I cut her off with my lips.

We kissed for the next few minutes. Like 2 people who have already shared a sexual experience. First intense, then slowing down, lightly pecking, holding eye contact and smiling at one another with foreheads touching. In that moment, I was in love.

"Now I know you." I said playfully slapping her bum.

She laughed out loud and shook her head. "I don't even know what to say, this is crazy, I came out to get away from my bitch of a roommate, and this happens."

"You should come outside more often." I replied with a smirk.

I explained I was leaving to get food and go home to relax for the rest of the day because I felt like shit. I handed her my phone. No words, just action in every case. She took it, without response she entered her number as I kissed her on her left shoulder, throwing in a gentle bite in for good measure.

She handed me back the phone and asked me what I was doing later.

"I'm staying in tonight, give me a call." She tilted her head and replied with "Hmm maybe, but probably not."

"Cool." I responded. I kissed her once more, held eye contact for a few seconds, turned, and left.

She messaged me on my phone about 30 minutes later, when the usual normal text like conversation began. I don't like to text too much before I have been intimate with her for many reasons, but one of the most important ones is because I am not there with her, she cannot feel my presence, meaning she is free to tie whatever associations she wants to my words.

When it comes to me having sex with a girl, who I am, and what I stand for as a man shines through. I never attempt to try and get a woman to call for sex. I'm never ever trying to have sex with anyone. Trying is doing with the intention of failing.

I assume that I am going to have sex with the woman one hundred percent of the time. It's a certainty in every single instance. It's going to happen at some stage regardless, so there is no need to force anything or race. It's the only natural outcome which can occur from me being a polarizing and masculine person.

The secret here is that the above is simply a belief which I choose to have. It's a belief that serves me and my purpose and guides me in the direction of my successful self. You can consciously choose any beliefs you want, so why pick the negative version, which only serves to limit your life experience? With this belief, there is no desperation or neediness toward sex ever. I know I can have sex whenever I want it. Sex is no longer a privilege that has been bestowed down to me by the every magnificent holder of the vagina.

I am the cause of sex. I stimulate sex. I am the result of sex. I am sex.

With this way of moving through my seductive endeavors, women, in many cases can get quite annoyed by this. It has become a very normal reaction for me. It confuses them and frustrates them but it makes the want to experience sex with you on a whole other level. They ask themselves "Why is this guy not trying to get with me, why is he not trying to convince me to have sex with him? Why is he not chasing me?"

I do not try, ever. I simply act in the moment and authentically express myself through descriptive statements or physical action. I become what I feel, that's your only job. I already know I am amazing with women. I choose to believe this. But right now, that particular girl I've just begun interacting with doesn't. She is aware of something that is making me different from other men out there; something strong. Not even mentally, but rather physically, for example: "He is talking to me about a Chimpanzee riding on a Segway, but my vagina is getting really wet, what's happening?"

Through the power of your desire and instinct, you undercut her logical brain, and stimulate her innate animalistic desires. We are animals at our core. We just have a huge brain, which is why we aren't all humping in the streets.

After some texting, and the reassurance that she doesn't have to do anything she doesn't want to, she knocked on my door at 9:30pm. I shouted for her to let herself in and she did.

I was already lying on my bed watching a movie; she was simply joining in on that for now. She sat down on the bed beside me, in quite a rigid way. I knew she was uncomfortable, because she had suddenly made me feel it. Be aware.

To remedy this, I took action. I got up and retrieved one of my t-shirts out of the wardrobe and threw it to her. She was in uncomfortable bedtime attire, so I took charge and fixed this for her, because I'm a good man, always looking to add and increase her comfort. I laid back down, took her by the shoulders, moved her, re-aligning her pillows and laid her head on my chest.

"Chill out, relax and enjoy this." I said.

Men, you must take the lead. Lead in every case. She wanted to be lying on me and cuddling, but she didn't know how to go about doing it within this new sudden dynamic. She is out of her comfort zone. If you invite a woman into your world, you must guide her. Most women are not used to, or familiar with this level of masculine presence, so many will tip toe.

Shortly after getting comfortable, we began to kiss. I stroked her, first softly, then firmly. We began to get more physical, when she stopped it.

She then began to tell me about her relationship issues of previous, and what had just happened. Her state shifted quickly and she began to get flustered, anxious, and kept saying "I'm sorry, I'm sorry." This, is quite common.

It was a moment of logical intervention from her ever helpful brain. I immediately positioned myself back from her, but kept my arm on her.

"Sweetheart, why are you saying sorry? You didn't do anything wrong. Whether we do anything tonight is completely irrelevant. You don't have to do anything you don't want to, I have told you this. There is no pressure, chill out and let's sleep."

She then began to get into a mental dialogue with herself, attempting to justify her decisions based on the situations. Where most men completely screw up here, is by trying. As they want the sex so bad, they begin to join in on the conversation she is having with herself, trying to sway her in the direction of his penis.

This is foolish, and in most cases a complete waste of time, to the point you may never sleep with this woman again. You will have destroyed the dynamic. Trying to take is not attractive. Do not attempt to entertain or fix her internal battles. They are hers, not yours. Be respectful of her emotional process. They also have no basis in reality, so it's quite pointless.

What I do is the same as I always do, and have done throughout the interaction from the beginning. I allowed her to talk. I gave her zero logical guidance. I don't want to have sex with logic, I want to have sex with instinct. Her instinct is still on. Let's just give the logic a while to tire itself out. Again, we are animals. I sat back watching the movie.

In my head, it's always on. I know that once I'm aroused, she has no choice but to feel that energy from me. After more "I'm sorry", I guided her head back down on my chest.

I was aware of her breathing shifting. I could feel her horniness and desire begin to build very quickly. It was fucking intense. My heartbeat sped up. Her breath was getting heavier on my chest. She was trying so hard to control it, so what did I do? I listened to her body, and took unapologetic action within the moment. No thinking, just action.

I slowly cupped her hand, and moved it, placing it on my hard dick. She began to stimulate it. I began to stimulate her. We had sex, obviously. It was amazing.

She shared with me during, and after, that she had never orgasmed like that in her entire life. This statement from her makes me feel a lot of emotions, but mainly, that of frustration and anger towards twenty-first century masculinity.

Every woman should be able to experience these feelings from men. Every man should be focused on growing as a sexual being. If you offer, and give a woman greatness, you will receive greatness in return. She experienced new, stronger sensations and more overwhelming climaxes. She was incredibly grateful and her mood was light and giggly.

She was gorgeously feminine. I love how I got to give her a new wonderful experience, and her, me. If I was needy and tried to force it, it would never have happened. She would of left feeling frustrated, upset, and probably a little embarrassed, not wanting to see me again.

Instead I took action. I was respectful of her boundaries, but I took consistent action, allowing her make her own decisions on what she wanted, or didn't want. Men, in most cases make up the woman's boundaries in their heads before even testing them. These beliefs such as "she doesn't want me to touch her there", is actually very disrespectful to women everywhere. You are robbing them of a deserved sexual, intimate, loving experience. Let's not be so arrogant.

Test her boundaries. Let her set them, and then respect them. Realize you are getting in your own way with your negative beliefs. You are a man. You are already amazing with women.

Be aware of how little I needed to speak in our initial meeting. I literally said close to nothing. There was zero logic, just simple words, in order to draw her out, allowing her to express herself in a secure and sexy way. Seduction is effortless. Go out, and give women an amazing experience, without just taking. This is one of the biggest secrets to being amazing with women.

"It's a numbers game!"

"The more you approach, the more you get rejected, so just deal with it and keep on fighting the good fight!"

"Accept that seventy percent of girls simply won't be interested in you."

"I don't care because at least I'm being direct and saying exactly what I want, so this makes me an alpha male guy."

The chances are that you will have heard at least two or three of the above statements, and you may very well believe them, so much so, that they have become an integrated part of who you currently are. Let me first state that this way of thinking is coming from a deep fear, a very stubborn fear and this fear is learned, coached and installed.

Enter you: Enter your new world like a blind man irresponsibly swinging a bat of strangled masculinity. I know this, because I experienced it. How do you move through life? How do you at least picture how you would like to move through life?

Do you want to be the bull in the china shop, aka, the boy who blindly runs after women, without presence and awareness, throwing his unedited thoughts at the opposite sex in an aggressively stupid way, expecting to reap the sexual gratification of thirty percent of the women he meets?

Or, do you want to be the suave, charming man who uses his masculinity, sexual intelligence, and sensitive awareness to draw women to him without having to chase them?

I have experienced both, I know which guy I have chosen to be, and that is the latter. Being the bull in the china shop is so appealing at the beginning because it feels like an internal rebellion. A giant fuck you to the rules and to society. In many cases there is even an underlying sense of aggression and sadness to it, at least there was in my case, and in many other guys I have seen go down this path.

You are encouraged to speak your mind like a real man, and in a sense, be socially stupid. You are encouraged to believe that it never matters what she wants; only what I want, because I am the man.

It is very easy to be blissfully ignorant and not willing to face your own fears. It is much easier for a man to blurt out exactly what he is thinking to avoid any confusion. The process reminds me of how a drunken baby would behave, and there is nothing sexy about a drunken baby, unless your chosen sexual partner is Gary Glitter.

I behaved in this way for many months, accepting stupidity as my savior. The statements at the top of this guide all became very true to me. I did get rejected far more than I got lucky. That was exactly it; luck. If you play that game, you are dependent on pure luck.

Now that I move through life with intelligence and a deep overwhelming sexuality that I can play with, I don't get rejected to an extreme sense. I honestly cannot remember the last time I have had a woman reject me. This does not come from any type of manipulation or dishonesty, it comes from the opposite, supported by a foundation of understanding of what side of my masculinity she wants and craves. Because I now know myself to a profound level, I know all the different facets of what I can offer the feminine at any point.

Identifying what she wants successfully will equal no rejection. You need to see yourself as a sexual chameleon of finesse and refined smoothness, adapting when needed to your surroundings. This is real strength. The simple art of understanding her will drive her wild and it is one of the sexiest qualities you can display to a woman, as it is so rare in a man. Be intelligent.

In she floated, perched almost on her tip toes, as she gracefully walked in. Tall and slender, porcelain skin, big almond eyes, with a tiny waist and one of the most beautiful butts I have ever seen, which was supported magically by her tight flowery yoga pants. She carried herself with such confidence. This was not a fake type confidence, but a loving self-assurance, combined with strength. I could immediately tell this girl knew exactly who she was and what she wanted.

After a while of studying her expressions and movements in an incredibly desirous way, I walked over and introduced myself. I did not approach because she is not a dangerous animal and I do need to proceed with caution. She is a beautiful woman, so I naturally walked over to establish connection with her, and hope to god that she inspired more desire in me. She did.

I felt my tonality drop; I began to shift into my intuition. She was very confident when I locked eyes with her and extended my hand. We exchanged glances and names; she was also comfortable enough to hold my hand as I spoke with her. She did not swoon. She did not get weak at the knees. She did not blush She did not get overwhelmed by my presence. She was quite business like, even with her warm smile.

I was confused. What was happening? Why had she not immediately declared her love for me? Old "direct guy" me would have immediately thought "Nope, she's not interested, it's a numbers game move on." But that was the old me.

This was around the time when I was developing a heightened sensitivity to the micro-reactions women display. It had been born through a large number of sexual interactions in the previous months. I could have just said screw it, it's too much work and gave up before I even started, but instead, my beliefs were much different. I truly believed that she was only disinterested in me, because I have not yet taught her how to be interested in me.

I immediately gauged that being very verbally forward and/or sexually aggressive with this girl would be like pissing against the wind. It's far too easy, and she is far too evolved to even entertain it. She is so aware and sexually confident, that she wants a partner who can handle her sufficiently and demonstrate similar qualities of strength. I was right.

On the first interaction with her, I could have classified it as a rejection, but I didn't. Instead I was intelligent and identified what she wanted. She wanted to be emotionally and sexually stimulated by a man who was well versed in the fine art of seduction.

The days following our first contact, I watched my realization become a very clear reality. A conveyor belt of sexually forward and verbally direct men approached her on a constant basis, only to be chewed up and spat out. Many of these guys were incredibly good looking and well-dressed men. The only problem was that they were the bull in the china shop.

For the first four days of being around her I didn't even speak to her, instead, I'd simply make eye contact; strong, sexual eye contact while feeling my desire for her overflow and engulf her. In some instances I would walk up to her slowly, with presence, and just look at her beautiful almond eyes. She would gaze back, breaking the gaze when it got to be too much. I had begun to attain a level of sexual dominance over her. This is what she wanted; a man strong enough to handle her. She felt it. She felt my confidence in how I could make her orgasm in more ways than one.

After about a week of intense glances and telegraphing, the time had come for conversation. Nothing sexual was said, ever. It didn't need to be said. Casual conversation was conducted, mainly on her part. I didn't smile very much. I didn't feel the need to. I was a hungry Lion, deeply breathing in order to keep the blood flow pumping in my erect penis.

A few days after conversation had started, cuddling began, in between her time spent chewing overly eager and unaware guys up and spitting them back out. She came to me, every day, straight away, sitting in between my legs, wrapping herself around me. I would gently bite and kiss her neck, sensually. She told me this makes her horny. I affectionately pulled her hair and ran my fingers up her thighs, in an incredibly animalistic way. Every way I interacted with her was the same as a lion would communicate with his chosen partner. Biting, squeezing, pulling, all done in a powerfully secure, but gentle way, all the while displaying I could devour you whenever I wanted.

She was exposed and she loved it. We had become energetically very close. I knew her and she knews. We both respected the process. She appreciated the fact I knew and understood at any given moment what she wanted. She did not get this freedom and presence from any other man. I was the guy. I was never desperate to fuck her.

This, in itself, says more than anything about the type of man I am. I can induce insane levels of sexual desire in her and myself, but I am controlled enough to resist. If this was any other girl, she would have gotten bored a long time ago. This is the difference in identifying what a particular woman wants.

Identifying leads to success. Being stupid does not. Every man is intelligent if he chooses to be. What do you choose?

Female Emotion

"That girl is a bitch; all she does is moan and complain."

The above quote is something I hear from my fellow men on a daily and nightly basis, either directed towards a girlfriend, a woman they are trying to fuck, or a girl they have not yet even spoken to. Sometimes, it the harshest realities that serve for the greatest lessons in life.

If you are one of these men, and you even give a second's thought to how a woman is a supposed bitch, or a "complainer, then this article is most definitely for you. First, accept, there is no such thing as a bitchy woman, instead, just a man who cannot offer her what she needs and craves from you.

Typical situation

You get home late from work and arrive back to an empty house. You have had an incredibly busy day, and all you want to do is sit in front of the TV with a beer and relax. This is your first problem, but the main point I'd like to make is look at getting a job that you don't need to escape from, or that does not give you the need to leave your presence at the door in order for a TV program to keep you functional, it is not good food for the masculine.

So there you sit after your long day at work, unwinding, when in walks your girlfriend/wife, like a mountainous, volcanic storm of thoughts and emotions being spat out in an alarmingly frantic rate. If you were to observe her state, she would be over active, stressed, maybe emotionally anxious with all the thoughts and emotions that course so naturally through a feminine creatures veins on a secondly basis. But you do not. You do not make yourself aware of her state.

This parade of complaining immediately uproots you and throws you off balance, you feel a bed of anger bubbling up from your stomach, to your chest, and to your head, where you finally explode in a second of offering your presence, and shout "STOP MOANING AT ME", or in an even worse case, you don't even verbalize it, you simply ignore her until she goes away.

Enter a ridiculously unnecessary argument, which unfortunately, you have ultimately created through lack of understanding. I know how frustrating this level of interaction can be, because I have been there myself over and over again. It's a cycle.

Women will take your presence however they can get it. If you are not aware enough to give it to her naturally, she will go out of her way to induce whatever morsel of presence she can from you. If this means throwing a glass through your new flat screen TV in order to enrage you to the point of argument, then so be it. She has still gotten your presence, even if it is angry, you are still focused on her with strong intent. Understand this cry. Right now, I will promise you, that with some simple understanding of the feminine i.e. your woman, this problem will not occur again, ever, as long as you do not want it to.

Know your role

When you think of yourself as a man, what role do you assign yourself within the relationship? In many cases, the two parties involved are on such autopilot that each other's' emotional states and way of interacting is not even dealt with or made conscious. This needs to change. Well, actually, two things need to change.

You must begin to become aware of your role, and then follow through within that dynamic. I would like you to begin to see yourself as the rock in the relationship, or when around women in general. As the masculine, this is your role. This signifies an un-moving, rock solid entity who is ever present for her to lean against when her emotional world takes its toll. See yourself as a safe haven for you beautiful woman to hibernate in. Somewhere she feels desired, secure, and most importantly, a place she feels heard, not listened to!

You do not need to listen to a woman for the most part, because what they say can be hugely irrelevant. I would actually highly recommend not listening to a woman in the most case. Women don't even listen to each other. They do something much more profound: They feel each other. Feel your woman.

The words which women speak are in most cases irrelevant, and this goes within the process of seduction, along with long term-relationships. She doesn't even have a certain grasp that what she is saying isn't logical. Instead she is choosing the best words she can find in that particular moment, in order to mirror her emotionally abundant feelings which change within her like the wind. This can result in her saying some horribly hurtful things in a moment of passion, which will only really affect the unaware man. Be aware that yes, she may indeed hate you and want you to jump off a building in this moment, but ten seconds from now, she may be head over heels back in love with you and crave your touch.

A quick side note:

Obviously be aware of when or if these negatively disrespectful criticisms become constant. There are times when you simply will not or should not tolerate such behavior from another human being, and choose to move on. You will know if what she is saying is coming from a place of willingness to hurt, or just misdirected passion.

You have it

Have you ever been in a situation where you know there is something not quite right with your girlfriend? You ask "Are you okay? what's wrong?" and her response is "Nothing, I'm fine." said in a way which signifies the direct opposite of what she just verbally expressed. Let's try and feel that statement.

Yes, clearly, she is within an emotional state. This is evident by her entire vibe, her facial expressions and her tone of voice. They are simply not congruent with the statement "Nothing, I'm fine."

If you have ever picked up this situation, or been in it, then I would like to congratulate you, as a man, you have the awareness tools to identify on an energetic level what she, or what any woman for that matter is feeling. Only due to your lack of understanding, you may not have known what to do with this natural instinctual superpower you have. Well done, you too, now possess my most valuable quality when it comes to seduction. We are of the same.

Don't listen to her. Feel her.

If I had a dollar for every time I slept with a woman shortly after she has said something verbal to indicate she was not interested in me sexually, I would be an incredibly rich man. Sure, she is expressing at that moment in time, for whatever reason that she is not sexually interested, so, my job, as the masculine, is to identify this need, and in turn create a sexually stimulating environment through my presence and vibe, speech and touch, which re-aligns her emotions and sets them on a different path. Not her path, not even my path, but our path, which results in her then wanting to explore sexually with me. Or, I could have just assumed she was a bitch, and slept alone that night.

Control vs. Guidance

Understand that women's emotions are exactly like the wind or the water flowing with current. You cannot possibly ask a woman how she plans on feeling today, or even within that moment. Her well of expansive emotion runs far too deep her to comprehend it logically, all she can do is let it express through her.

It would be like asking the wind "Hello wind, which way do you intend on blowing today, and how strong?". The winds response "I don't know, However I feel like." and like a woman, even asking the wind such a ridiculously uneducated question will most likely result in an argument. Asking a woman "How are you feeling", angers her so much, because you are basically stating your lack of sensitivity to her emotions. She wants you to know her and to feel her without having to ask.

Understand that women's emotions cannot be governed by control. They are internally chaotic. Where there is emotional peace, a storm is brewing inside. The difference between how you will react to that chaos, is grounded in your understanding, or lack thereof.

The unaware man, sees her emotional fluctuation as a negative horrible thing which he must try avoid and hide from, peeking through her glass case of emotion, to see when the coast is clear. The aware man, sees her emotional fluctuation as one of the most beautiful things about his woman. He envisions his woman's femininity and strength through her emotions. He feels her vibrancy through her expression. But most importantly, he sees her emotional chaos as doorway to her love and a doorway to connect in immeasurable ways.

As I said, you cannot control her. As an aware man that she craves, you can guide her out of her emotional states in a split second, into states of happiness, love, and sexual arousal, effortlessly. That's the art of seduction. Let's return to the first situational example from the top of this article and see how the aware and present man handles this situation.

So there you sit after your long day at work, unwinding, when in walks your girlfriend or wife, like a mountainous, volcanic storm of thoughts and emotions being spat out in an alarmingly frantic rate. If you were to observe her state, she would be over active, stressed, maybe emotionally anxious with all the thoughts and emotions that course so naturally through a feminine creatures veins on a secondly basis.

There arrives my beautifully feminine creature, craving for my masculine presence to allow her to escape from her emotional entanglement. You put down the remote control, you turn to face her slowly and make eye contact, and you take a deep breath to become as present with her as possible. You say "Hi, come and sit down with me.", again in a calm and relaxed fashion. You are there to ground her. You are her roots to the earth. You do not react or become her current state, because then you are useless to her, you cannot set her free.

As you hold eye contact, you are not listening to the words coming out her mouth, possibly referring to "that bitch at work" or her boss, or her deadline that's due, instead, you are right there with her emotionally. You are feeling her states in a hyper aware fashion. She feels this. She loves this. You do not offer advice on her emotional states. The masculine always wants to fix things as a conclusion so the next task can be started and finished. Women do not work this way. Nothing ever finishes, it is simply felt until another emotional state takes over.

You sit there, feeling her emotions, but most importantly you are observing them, not taking them on. You must remain in the masculine. Do not become reactive or engaged in an aggressive fashion. You have two jobs:

This is ultimately all you must do to seduce in every cases. This needs to be evident within every male to female interaction. This makes generalized rejection a thing of the past. I cannot remember the last time I have been rejected by a woman.

Number two is easy. As she is engaged in her frantic emotional verbalizations, it could be as easy as cutting her off and sticking your tongue out and making a fart noise. Enter shock, which turns her to erupting in laughter, completely setting her free. Then you hold her hands and smile at her, pulling her in and cuddling her, allowing her to relax into you. She knows you feel her, and she feels you feeling her. This gives her security in you as a man, but not physical big muscle security, even more important than that, it gives her mental security. She has your strength underneath her, supporting her if she chooses to fall. The difference between you and ninety percent of other men, is that you can catch her, every time. This situation can be then moved to the bedroom where you offer her physical, mental, and spiritual release.

Well done, you have avoided the most unnecessary argument known to mankind, and strengthened your bond, along with having amazing sex. You now understand what it takes to set her free. She will repay you endlessly with her affection and love, as you are giving her something most men can't; raw, present, magnetic masculinity which can only set her free.

It happens so much. You meet a girl, you seduce her by being a polarizing masculine being, then you begin to really like her, and everything else falls by the wayside. Then she breaks up with you, and you ask why.

Cutting away from your instinct after establishing an instinctual connection with her, and changing your actions as a man out of fear of losing her, will be the direct cause of losing her. You got lazy.

Guys often change their behavior around a woman once they have reached their happy level of progression within the dynamic. This is out of fear, the fear of losing what you have, or what you may feel you have worked for. This instantly confuses a woman, and in most cases, your fear will begin to repel her from you.

Be honest with her when you reach this moment, and express yourself openly and honestly. You are both human, this is ok, this is good. A woman never wants to be your whole world, instead, she wants to be a part of it. Remember this before you choose to change all your plans in order to accommodate this girl who you are madly in love with. If she does not like that, she knows where the door is. The very fact of you having the ability to walk away at the drop of a hat means that she will never leave you. Every woman wants this secure dominant emotional strength.

Never step off your own path in order to please somebody else, because the ironic thing is, they don't want you to. She does not want you to fail her test. She wants to be disciplined. This allows her to let go when she's around you, and have peace of mind that you can take care of her. This is what women want. If she can push you off your path, this little, beautiful woman, imagine what the world will do to you. This is how they think, and they do not want to stay with a man who cannot handle her. This is nature.

Become an Animal

Last year I noticed something strange happening to me. It wasn't an odd thing for everyone, but it was strange for me. I noticed that wherever I went, women were checking me out left and right. It's possible that I simply hadn't noticed this phenomenon before, but I somehow doubt it. I sincerely believe that I would have noticed women undressing and ravaging me with their eyes.

Before this time, I had never been approached by or referred to as sexy by a member of the fairer sex. I also do not personally see myself as being a classically handsome man in the slightest. I'm skinny, a little scruffy, and have a hairline that is thinning and receding more as I type. The good thing is, that this physical aspect is not important. All of a sudden, seemingly out of the blue, I was being aggressively checked out by hordes of attractive women on a daily basis. They didn't even try to hide it. I know they want me to slowly walk over and turn their world of sexuality upside down. They know I can, and they know that I know I can. They can sense this at a very deep level.

Women approach me first in many cases these days. They do it with a heavy prolonged seductive glance, or a warm and sexy inviting smile. I've gotten incredibly lazy with the doing aspect of seduction, basically I do nothing, simply because all I have to focus on is the internal, and this molds my external expression and experience. If needs be I will wave them over or call them from a distance. They come to me.

Before, I would sometimes get the compliment of cute, or nice. Now, they describe me using words such as sexy, hot, overwhelming, or my favorite; "I don't know what it is, you've just got that thing." I feel like a piece of meat and I love it.

Physically, nothing has changed about me in the past four years. But, what has changed is my internal acceptance, understanding, and power. I still do not feel physically attractive. What I do feel, is incredibly sexy. I could walk around with a stiffy all day if I wanted. Notice I said feel. I feel sexy!

It's become common knowledge to me lately, that in order to trigger a specific emotion or feeling in another person, you must feel it internally first. You must become that feeling, generating it internally, in order to express it within the physical and energetic body. The better and stronger you become at doing this, the more it will transcend to the other individuals within your presence. You cannot expect a woman to get horny, if you don't go there first, unapologetically.

In order to get to a level of projecting this sexy vibe on a constant and somewhat overwhelming basis, you must first deal with your insecurities, fears, and beliefs around the subject of sex and women. You need to clear out the internal garbage which is stopping you from releasing your true sexual, masculine power. Give yourself permission to be sexy.

This process differs from man to man, as we have all racked up different amounts and different intensities when it comes to the damage of life and the damage of society as well as the damage of forced mediocrity. The worst possible thing you can do is look at a man that women call sexy and try to model yourself on his physical and external actions. It's like putting a ribbon on a turd. The fancy new pirate hat isn't fooling anyone. It's doing things backwards, and it takes far more effort, with miniscule results, trust me, I've been there.

Why start at the superficial level? Instead of trying out a new walk, or a new voice technique you learned in GQ magazine, why don't you think and feel internal sexiness and watch it engulf your entire presence? It will look after your body language, your eye contact, voice tone, and direction, flawlessly, and in a completely congruent way.

Practice

Right now, close your eyes and without replaying a porn scene in your head, feel the soft warm lips of a beautiful woman wrap around the tip of your penis. Focus and really feel it. Feel the texture, the heat and the wetness. Take a deep sexual breath deep down into your lower abdomen and testicles. Fill your penis with this sexual energy. If you can successfully feel a tingle, arousal, or even give yourself an erection, congratulations. You have just felt sexy without doing anything externally.

Now do this again, this time, with your eyes open, using your breathe to fill your groin. There is no need to give yourself an erection this time, but feel that energetic feeling of sexiness rush through your body. When you feel this feeling immerse you, talk. Say something out loud. Walk. Smile. Guess what, right now your internal expression is being pushed out to the external. You will sound different, move different, and you will look different.

The more you practice this, the stronger and more instant it becomes. I can click into this seductive sexy vibe in a millisecond. Keep at it.

Moving forward

So now that you have experienced this feeling and you can physically feel it click into place, here comes the next step; allowing it. It's one thing to do this in the privacy and comfort of your own home, It really is quite easy to get lost in it, which is exactly what you want to happen in every case, but allowing this incredibly overwhelming feeling to fill you up in the presence of a woman you're attracted to can be the scary part.

In order for you to allow yourself to feel this way in the company of others, there will be many internal battles you will come up against. Your old beliefs of what is right and wrong or socially correct will begin to fight with your new internal projection. This is a good sign and it means you are on track to systematically work on breaking all these down until they just give up and surrender, which they will eventually.

Carry a notebook, and take note of what feelings come as well as the negative beliefs that are causing them. Then question every single belief to death. Really delve into them and expose them for the untrue and irrational fears that they are. This builds internal awareness which is king in this situation. When you're speaking to a woman, click into your seduction sexy mode. Look at her, feel her lips wrapped around your penis, feel her bare ass in your hand, you'll probably give yourself a tingle in your penis, and a smirk.

When you start allowing it to take over, it will never let you down. Your penis will never let you down. Your masculine strength will never let you down. Your internal animal instinct, will never let you down. Please, allow it. The women will blush and melt before you. It is ok to look at a woman in ways that signify "I want to eat you." She wants you to eat her, to take her. Allow it. I know one hundred percent since giving myself permission to be a sexually expressive man, women have started to become incredibly attracted to me and I have slept with more incredibly amazing women than I could ever imagine happening.

Sex is not bad, it's beautiful. It's a sign of great love for another human being to allow them to experience you in such an intimate and raw way. Please believe this, and allow yourself to communicate it, and give this gift to women everywhere. This is what women want. You don't even have to put your penis inside every one of them if you care not to, simply give them your sexual energy and presence. Make her feel like a beautiful, sexually desired woman. She will re-pay you in incredibly enjoyable ways.

Feel sexy inside, and this will change your entire external world. Get lost in the feeling, and be present with it. You will witness magic unfold. No techniques, no lines, no direct and no indirect; just you, being a man. It's just you being a sexy man.

Never step off your own path in order to please somebody else, because the ironic thing is, they don't want you to. She does not want you to fail her test. She wants to be disciplined. This allows her to let go when she's around you, and have peace of mind that you can take care of her. This is what women want. If she can push you off your path, this little, beautiful woman, imagine what the world will do to you. This is how they think, and they do not want to stay with a man who cannot handle her. This is nature.

Another Real Life Seduction

I'm going to tell you another story about one of my seductions. Everything that follows is true. Take the information that I give you in this anecdote to heart.

I would like to apologize if the explanation of events is somewhat difficult to understand. I find it incredibly hard to verbalize magic. Magic is what I call the intense energetic connection felt between two members of the opposite sex, where one is incredibly polarizing to the other. I will do my best to get across in detail the scene, combined with the internal and external pattern and information. To me, sexual attraction and seduction is in no way based on techniques or lines, or even rules for that matter. It's magic, which comes when you are empty enough to allow it, even if it can be absolutely terrifying. I may at times sidetrack off topic, but this is how my mind works when I'm trying to get it all out.

Magic

In she walked, and before I even laid eyes on her, her presence hit me like a brick wall. My energy left the soles of my feet and rocketed its way up to my solar plexus, then hit my chest, aggressively shifting my breathing and my control vanished. This manifested in an increase in blood pressure, and what some men may refer to as anxiety.

This feminine creature had instantly overwhelmed me and uprooted any sense of grounding I previously had. The difference between me and the unaware man is that I felt this instantly. I immediately regained presence, and with a deep and controlled breathe, I re-rooted my energy back down to my core, and pushed my awareness back out into the environment. I turned towards her as she beamed. We locked eyes and all I could see was her femininity. All I could feel was her lips, which in my head, were already wrapped around the cusp of my penis. She was magic!

She was a petite, short haired blonde beauty. She was curvy and expressive, vibrant and unchained, playful and sexy. She wore a small flowery playsuit with bright red lipstick seductively rolled along her amazingly plump lips. Her look was raw. I wanted her, every last piece of her.

I picked up on all of this within the first 3 seconds of seeing her approach the bar where I was working. This is animal instinct at its purest form making the decisions. I am allowing it to take over and call the shots. I am learning to trust it more and more in every case. It can be scary at times to let it take over, but in its history, it has never steered me wrong. I wanted to eat her.

A quick side note; this night in particular I was absolutely wrecked tired, and feeling quite unequipped to deal with people in general. I am very introverted and internal, which in many ways, makes for much more powerful seductions. If you are introverted, own it, do not attempt to change who you are for anybody. Likewise if you are the opposite, be you.

By the time she had reached the bar counter with her two friends and a few family members, she was smiling ear to ear, she knew it was on and we both felt it. I bombarded her with my lust for her and in a split second she accepted. It is an incredible phenomenon to me that I don't think I will ever understand. The power of polarizing, and the effect it has on the opposite. Here this girl was, strong and confident, acting how she is used to acting. She had an aura of in-charge about her. The second I let my desire for her hit, she was instantly given the permission to become the whole feminine. I was the lion, and she was the swooning blushing, fidgeting, and overwhelmed damsel. Women want our unapologetic sexual energy. They want to feel the effect they are having on us, because this is how they feel truly special and truly loved as an entity. Simply telling a woman they are beautiful is nothing compared to feeling how beautiful she is and allowing yourself to lose yourself in that moment, if you lose yourself without attempting to hide it. That is the key. It says so many profound things about the type of man you are, but most importantly, that you are authentic, and you have a deep comfort with who you are as a man. Be vulnerable, it's intoxicating.

"Can I have a Vodka Lemon please?" she said as she blushed uncontrollably. I held her gaze, penetrating her, for another two seconds, combined with a smirk, until she looked down to the side giggling, dispersing the sexual tension we were both sitting in. I eventually spoke, first I put my hand on top of hers and then leaned in to her ear,

"I don't even know what you have said to me, all I can see is your lips." Again she responded with blushing and giggling, while she entered even further into playful shy little girl mode.

She raised her head again, and with a seductive squeeze on my hand, which said to me "Keep going, this is amazing!" She repeated "Can I have a vodka lemon please".

Immediately I shift into seduction mode, with my body language and voice tone clicking into an energetic frequency that makes my penis start to tingle. I respond in a slow, deep and seductive tone "And what else do you like?" While once again holding pressure with intense eye contact. You know you are turning a girl on when her mother starts blushing for her.

After this, nothing fancy is needed. I simply spoke to her in a normal way with sexual intent and undertones, remaining sensual at every opportunity. I got to know her, what she did, what she liked, etc. It was just a normal conversation. I never feel the need to try hard to impress or do any fancy techniques, because I already assume it's on. This conversation is simply filler or the middle part, before we are intimately consuming each other in the only way that's natural.

After about twenty minutes, I ushered her in a certain and self-assured way to come to the entrance point of my bar, not with words, just with my finger. Locking eyes hard and seductively she got up smiling a very slowly strut towards me, the closer she got the harder my dick became. She got to me and I held her by the waste and pulled her in, I said "You know for the past twenty minutes all I've wanted to do is kiss you, look at what you've done to me."

At this point, I gently took her hand and slowly moved in down to my erect penis pressing out of my jeans. She grabbed it and let out the sexiest little gasp. I asked her was she a good kisser, face to face, she said maybe.

We kissed. It was intense. She waited for me to finish work, abandoning her friends and family. She came home with me, easily and without question, because she saw my authentic self. I let her in. Why would she not?

She shared something with me later that night as we lay naked and exhausted. She said that this is something she has never done before. When I asked her what made her come home with me she said: "It's because you didn't ask me to come home with you. You gave me the option. You said you can either come with me or not, there is no pressure, and you don't have to do anything you don't want to, but I would love you to."

She said that she loved this. It displayed non-neediness on my part. It says I don't need you, but I want you. I was also not aggressively pushy, but respectful of her boundaries while still taking constant action. We shared four hours of some of the most amazing sex I've ever had.

Why did this happen? It happened because I allowed myself to be vulnerable. I let my instinct take control. I let myself be scared. I connected as deeply as possible to another human being. I gave her an amazing experience, an amazing taste of sexuality, love and life. She gave me the same, and I learned so much from our brief encounter, I am forever grateful for her trust in me as a man. It was magic!

Settling for Less

I used to see this every single night in the nightclub where I worked. Guys arrive, fill themselves with alcohol, then go after the far less attractive looking women, rather than going for the absolute stunners which stand beside them, looking bored, aching to interact and be fulfilled by a real man, who knows who he is, and what he wants. Settling for less, I believe, is a disease which engulfs the majority of society, and a sickness I suffered from up to only very recently in my life. Playing it safe, and going for the sure shot is something mindlessly encouraged by society, friends, and family. This is in every aspect of life from career, to financial decisions, right up to dating and love, instilling a melting pot full of limiting beliefs. How we are all told, and expected to live.

People obliviously settle. It's normal. This is evident when the handsome guy leaves with the fattest and drunkest chick at the party, simply because it was easy, with no balls required, and the safest play for his ego. Nothing is risked.

When I ask guys about why they go for the safe and less attractive girls, the answer is always the same. "It's easier to get an average girl. It's easier to fuck them."

Guess what guys, the opposite is true. Let me tell you something I have discovered. In today's world, the happiest women, and the women who are getting most of the attention, and most of the sex, are the average looking. In a world of mediocrity, the mediocre women reap the benefits of the unconfident; sexually weak play it safe type man.

Since stepping up and going for the most attractive and emotionally intelligent women, I have learned something very valuable. In most cases, the sexiest, most amazing women in this world are the loneliest, most insecure people. They don't get aggressively approached in a dominant way such as the average looking girls. Guys are intimidated by them and assume they are untouchable. Negative mindsets such as "She's out of my league", and "She definitely won't like me, look at her" are killing guys ability to approach these very special women, or my favorite "She definitely has a boyfriend."

A quick side note on this: A large portion of the women I end up having passionate spontaneous sex with, and amazingly deep connections, all have the mythical boyfriend or fiancé or husband. If a woman is happy, satisfied, and connected with on an emotional level with her man, she will not stray, as she is not looking for anything. I see no issue in fulfilling a woman who needs a moment of intense clarity. As a matter of fact I see it as a great gift I am learning to continuously offer as a lover of women.

All these beautiful and highly attractive women simply want a man that can hold her gaze and be comfortable in her presence; a man who can look at her and see past all the external superficial beauty which causes her to be immediately judged by not just men, but also just as much by other women. Fundamentally, at the core, that's it. Her needs are in many ways smaller than the average woman, simply because the average has many more options to choose from. This is our fault as men. The beautiful are judged, placed in big dark boxes high up in lonely pedestals. They have to exist in this role on a daily basis, not allowed letting the beauty slip for one moment, because after all, then who would she be? What box does she have left?

In terms of seduction, the ironic thing is, the more attractive and overwhelming a woman's presence has on you; the easier it is to seduce her, once you allow yourself to feel it and express it. What I have learned is never try to force a seductive state upon a woman who only has an average effect on you. Why would you even choose to waste your time on someone who doesn't inspire you immediately? Ask yourself:

If so, this needs to be dealt with. The greater the love we have for ourselves, the greater love we can give to others.

Never forget that seduction is a two way street because it is shared. You cannot seduce on your own, there needs to be two polarizing forces dancing in sexual tension. It is a dance that you share with one another. If you make it about her, she will make it about you, and there the connection is complete. But as the man, you must be the trigger, the rock that stimulates her reaction to join this dance. This can be done with a sexual glance, a smile, or just a deep present breathe. Know your role.

I find it much more work to seduce a woman who has less of an impact on me. The women who overwhelm me are most of the time incredibly free flowing and natural, because the projection is there, there is no need to focus on making it any stronger. If I can't get an erection by simply being in her space, she is not for me. My instinct is governing my decision and I'm allowing it. I don't need sex, I just want it and settling for mediocre connections leads to a mediocre experience, leading to a mediocre existence. You deserve everything. Go grab it.

The Directionless Hitman

Before we bring this guide to a close I would like to refer to one more aspect, which is quite problematic in our male community of dating advice and training. Do not be the Directionless Hitman

My definition of the Directionless Hitman: When you make the decision to better your life with women, a process begins, and with the majority of guys, the growth halts at a specific point, and they end up mindlessly running around in this space for weeks, months, or even years. This point is what I like to call "The Directionless Hitman".

It is one of the most empowering moments in a man's strive for romantic efficiency and independence, when he takes that first step by himself, and chooses to go against societal norms, step outside his comfort zone, look fear in the eyes, and approach the first woman of his life. This may be in the street during the day, a coffee shop, library, or by a hedge, it's irrelevant. The feeling of victory is powerful. The emotional impact of taking this action is nothing to do with the girl you just went to talk to, instead, it's completely to do with you, the man, facing his fears and feeling like a boss.

Great, you took the first step. What begins to happen at this point for many men is they become addicted to this feeling, and put everything else to the side. They spend insanely large amounts of their daily life aimlessly chasing after women and "hitting" on them, kind of like a dog chasing his tail. Many of the clients I see for coaching are in this exact boat. They have hit on women in the thousands, with little to no actual results in terms of sexual intimacy, connection or internal happiness.

These men reach the hitman stage, and turn into robots. They become incredible proficient at walking up to a complete stranger and getting them to stop for a short period of time, engaging usually in a word for word conversational structure which has already been dragged through the other six hundred approaches before her. I even hear of guys who tell me they are saving money and leaving their cities or towns to go to big cities like New York to practice day game. That mindset is one that will not serve you.

It does not matter where you are, there is always going to be some number of women, be it large or small. In my opinion, seeing any more than four girls at one time is not enjoyable, and is more work than it is actually worth. Now if you are moving cities to get better passion opportunities, or to see a new culture or learn about another part of the world, great do it, I recommend it, but not to practice picking up women.

Passion

I want you to think of the men in your life that you are either currently friends with or have simply come across in your lifetime, who are incredibly successful with women. I can pretty much guarantee you that these men do not spend the majority of their days, or even a noticeable amount of time chasing or approaching women. Instead, the guys for the most part are more concerned with doing what they are passionate about in life, whether it be setting up their own business, or being unemployed and playing music in their mom's basement. Both very different on the superficial side of things, but internally they share the same quality; self-worth.

Both men are internally qualified by themselves, and do not have the need to look for outside validation, especially with regards to how many lays he has accumulated. They do not need women, but they do want women.

Let's look at this scenario. A man who is not happy in himself or life feels confused and lost, as the art of interacting with women was never transferred onto him by a strong dominant male figure such as a father or mentor. It rarely happens in our day and age unfortunately. So he does the next best thing, he googles "how to get a girlfriend."

This returns about three hundred and eleven million search results. He looks at some fancy websites where bulletproof guys promise him a brand new life, he watches their videos, likes their clothes, gets excited, books his training course, and it begins. In this boot camp he is made to face his fears and approach women. After this euphorically high two days, he is now able to actively go out, and run after all the women he wants, without fear. The unfortunate issue is, all of his internal loneliness, self-hatred, insecurities and confusion around who he is and what he is truly passionate about has been left completely unchecked or even questioned and swept under the rug. So now, he will spend his days, nights, and his emotional and physical energy desperately chasing women in order to reach whatever false sense of fulfilment is in his head while eagerly awaiting the next product release by his favorite pick up coach that he feels will fix that feeling he has of something which is still missing.

If he eventually gets to his goal, whether it's ten make-out sessions or five lays, which is the proof that he is worth it, then what happens? Nothing happens.

This usually spirals, and he is left unfulfilled, because he has allowed something which is already a natural aspect of mankind take over his entire purpose. Women become figures, numbers, and collections of digits. His ego begins to form a new perfect image of his newly found pick up persona. Words become overly practiced conversational structure. He begins to burn out, sadness ensues, and a new obsession is a must. He becomes the approach junkie, and it's most definitely a real thing.

Balance

Now, let me get back to some basics here, yes, in order to improve your life with women, you must take action, and you must interact with women, and the more you do it, the better equipped you become for dealing with the large contrasting situations which may occur. The key difference in doing it to a healthy capacity rather than a detrimental capacity is balance.

What many men are lacking in the area of seduction is a basic understanding of what is actually seductive to the feminine. Understanding of male and female polarization is key, which is what you have been learning in this guide. A man, who is aware of this foundation, does not need to, nor does he want to go out for four hours a day and blindly approach fifty women. How sad is that? What does that say about the man? Does he really deserve those beautiful women? What can this man offer her other than tips on how to go out cruising or day gaming? For the most part, he can offer her nothing.

I am being blunt here on purpose, because I want you to think about what you have to offer a woman with your current lifestyle. I do not mean this in terms of money and fancy things, but rather in passion for life. No woman ever wants to be your everything, nor does she want to be your number one, or the reason you get out of bed in the morning, or why you have read those entire seventy-five eBooks fourteen times a piece. With this understanding alone, the mere thought of spending the most part of your life gaming girls seems like the worst thing to do.

I often get asked by new clients, how many women I personally approach per day. My response is always none, but if I see a pretty girl, I talk to her.

I never ever leave the house with the intention of going out to approach women. Why the would I do such a thing? I am already happy in who I am, plus I have things to do. I don't need that. It's desperate, and women smell it off you. Stop going out to approach, instead, focus on living your life in a seductive state of mind, which again, this book has documented for you.

As I tell my students, I never go out to approach, but if I see a woman I'm attracted to as I am on my way to get some milk for my breakfast then yes, I am going to go over to say "Hi", and this is my way of interacting throughout my daily life. I'm seductive with our without her. After you practice and implement the principles I teach here, you will eventually become what you're practicing.

If you're doing thirty approaches a day and another guy is doing none, but he is still having sex with new women every week, something isn't quite adding up is it? If you have no reason to leave your house during the day, then let that be your first mission, and focus on changing that. Join a class, take up a hobby, go for some exercise, meditate in a beautiful area, just do something.

Do not make women your number one priority for leaving your house. I have made a conscious effort to build who I am as a man alongside building my understanding, and practical action when it comes to seduction. I have tried many things in my life to develop myself and be as well rounded and spontaneously driven as possible. I am a club D.J., I spent close to five years on commercial radio as a broadcaster, I've worked in a fast food, I am a barman, a writer, a P.R. worker, meditation coach, dating coach, black belt in Karate, a qualified Acupuncturist with a degree in T.C.M., I have spent two years in broadcasting college, on top of much more. That is what I mean by passion. Be passionate about something.

The above point is not a desperate attempt to show off, it's to show you that even though I have put a great deal of my life into getting better with women, which I am still doing, I have spent just as much of that time relentlessly chasing passions, and expanding the concept of who I am. I am not exclusively any of the above. I am all of those things, and none of those things. We are fluid entities who can do and be anything we want to.

When a woman asks me what I do, I can only ever answer with "lots of things", which pitter out over time in our getting to know one another. Stop making women your priority. Balance your life. Yes, interact with women every day, as many of them which attract you, but do not be going out to find them. Structure your lifestyle around it. Why not join a yoga class where there is going to be a very large amount of spiritual, bendy feminine creatures, also looking to improve themselves, all of whom are wearing yoga pants may I add.

Understand what it means to be seductive and how to use sexual tension. Far less energy is needed than what you are already most likely putting into impressing women. I'm going to leave it at that, and hopefully I have inspired some of you to re-think your current way of life, and see what is truly possible

In Closing

So, there you have. I truly hope that you've taken this two part guide to heart and endeavor to make it a part of your everyday life. You have the power within yourself to become the man you want to be. You just have to make the conscious decision to go out there and get it. I know you can do it, and you know you can do it. No one is stopping you but yourself.

No, got get them!